We gay men have a gift for spirituality. We have been the shamans and healers, the seers and priests of many peoples. Yet over the last millennium or two, many of the world’s religions have built barriers to our spiritual quest. We need to rediscover our path to the Infinite. That’s what this blog is about. I’m an explorer of the world’s wisdom traditions, modern psychologies, and gay writers. I hope you’ll join me on the journey.
The story of my life is one of conflict, impasse and discovery. The conflict was between my sexuality and my spirituality. I’ve always been drawn to spirituality. I’m an INFJ in Myers-Briggs typology, often described as the most mystical of the types. That fits me. I am by nature drawn to the infinite, the mysterious, the… Continue reading My Story
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How would you describe what it is to be human? To what would you compare our inner experience? Both the Greek and Hindu traditions have used the metaphor of a chariot drawn by the horses of our innate drives and guided by the mind. In the post on “Hercules’ Rage“ I alluded to Plato’s version of… Continue reading Plato and the Upanishads on the Chariot Analogy
If time travel were an option, no doubt we gay men would be booking vacations to ancient Thebes in Greece. It was a hotbed of homoeroticism. It had been home to the Sacred Band, the military regiment of 300 men, 150 pairs of lovers, who dominated the area in the middle of the 4th century… Continue reading Hercules’ Rage
Some of us have dates or partners this Valentine’s Day. Others of us are single and alone. We who are alone have erotic desires too. What do we do with them? Should we grow frustrated, depressed? Aelred reminds us, as Anna Kartsonis says, “There are more uses of the erotic than just erotic ones.”
This past Friday evening, James Hollis, a Jungian analyst here in the Washington, DC area, gave a talk on “In-Between Times.” In every passage, he reminded us, something must die so that something new may be born. Western culture is in such a passage. The United States is in such a passage. And, I would… Continue reading A Quest for Meaning
Werner Heisenberg and Neils Bohr were both Nobel Prize winning physicists. In 1971, Heisenberg published his recollection of a conversation between himself and other physicists including Bohr on the topic of religion. The following is an except of what Neils Bohr said in that conversation. Here Bohr offers his take on the nature of religious… Continue reading Neils Bohr on Religions
Waterfalls have always fascinated me. I’ve meandered through the mountains of North Carolina, mesmerized by waterfall after waterfall. I’ve stood on the border between New York and Ontario and beheld water falling 167 feet over Niagara Falls. Yet Niagara, I am told, hardly compares to the world’s two largest falls, Iguazu and Victoria, both of which I would like to see. There is something breathtaking about such beauty and such power.
I began this series of posts on the four aims of life, the four purusharthas, with the story of Bob Bergeron, a gay man who seemed to have everything, yet committed suicide at age 49. I want to be careful about drawing any conclusions from what I know of his story. Each life is a… Continue reading Our Place in the World
Wouldn’t life be great if I could quit my day job? The mythical hero Arjuna is asking just that question in the Bhagavad Gita. He’s in a difficult situation. His role as a warrior and a prince requires him to fight a battle he does not want to fight. He pours out his heart to… Continue reading The Meaning of Means
When Brahma created the world, the Indian myth says, he brought all its creatures into being by thinking of them. They sprang out of his mind, fully formed. Things were going along swimmingly, until the moment he began to admire his new, stunningly beautiful creation, a woman. She was incomparable, he thought, and perfect. Suddenly, something unexpected happened.
It was written but never published. The book was named The Right Side of Forty: The Complete Guide to Happiness for Gay Men at Midlife and Beyond. The book was fully edited, the cover designed, ready for publication. There’s still a page for it on Amazon, even an entry on Google Books. But the book was never printed. Two weeks after he completed final editing, six years ago today, the author committed suicide. He was forty-nine.