As LGBTQ persons, it is not easy to find others with whom we can share our inner lives honestly and openly. Spiritual companionship (aka spiritual direction) offers you that kind of relationship with someone who is attentive, nonjudging, and knowledgeable about the path.
Would you consider letting me be a companion on your hero’s journey?
I am a listener, a counselor, a mentor. I bring the empathy of someone who knows the LGBTQ experience from the inside. I will be attentive to you, accept you, appreciate the complexities of your life, and offer you the freedom to explore.
I have a strong background in spirituality. I was a pastor for over twenty years. I have an M.A. in spirituality from St. John’s University (Collegeville, MN) and have done doctoral work in spirituality at the Catholic University of America (Washington, DC). I’ve also taught religion on the college level. But practice is more important than academics. For many years, my primary practice was centering prayer from the Christian tradition. These days, my practice is anchored in classical yoga, the ancient meditative ancestor of modern postural yoga. I supplement that with practices from other traditions (Buddhist, Christian, Daoist, Hindu, Sufi, secular), and these change from time to time.
Given this background, I can walk with you if you are committed to a traditional path or if, like growing numbers of us, you are weaving together practices from two or more traditions. I will be there to help you discern the way ahead, to help you overcome obstacles, and to suggest new territory for your exploration. Mostly I will listen.
I usually meet with clients for a 60 minute session every other week. We can meet in person (if you are in the DC area) or connect by video call. My rates in most cases range from $65 to $95 per session (click for details).
If you work with me, you will have
- A safe place to talk about your spirituality, your sexuality, and your life.
- A relationship that nurtures your healing and personal growth.
- Insights from a knowledgeable guide.
- Encouragement to grow into your gifts and purpose.
- The freedom, guidance, and support to find your own path to the transcendent.
If you are considering inviting me to be your spiritual guide, you might want to reflect on three questions:
- Are you willing to talk about your inner experiences with someone you trust?
- Do you sense a desire for meaning or transcendence in your life?
- Are you willing to explore a contemplative practice such as meditation?
If you answer yes to these questions, even a tentative yes, I invite you to contact me. Let’s set up a time to talk further.
David has helped me understand my journey and myself,
not only as a gay man but also as a Christian and artist.
His hard and honest questions lead me to see myself and others around me.
His compassion, loyal presence and sensitivity help me find courage to carry on.
When I was in the darkest place I’ve even been
he was there with me, guiding me through those uncertain times.
It wasn’t until I began professional psychiatric therapy
that I realized how helpful David’s guidance had been
in equipping me, both spiritually and emotionally,
to navigate the murky waters between the spirit and the psyche.
Your story is safe with David;
he cares, fiercely.
Favorite Quotes on Spiritual Companionship
From the Christian tradition:
It is no mean consolation in this life
to have someone in whom your spirit may rest,
to whom you can pour out your soul.
~Aelred of Rievaulx (12th century monk, likely gay)
From the Buddhist tradition:
Ven. Ānanda went to the Blessed One [the Buddha]
and, on arrival, having bowed down to the Blessed One, sat to one side.
As he was sitting there, Ven. Ānanda said to the Blessed One,
“This is half of the holy life, lord:
having admirable people as friends, companions, and colleagues.”
“Don’t say that, Ānanda,” [said the Buddha]. “Don’t say that.
Having admirable people as friends, companions, and colleagues
is actually the whole of the holy life.”
From the Sufi tradition:
Whoever travels without a guide needs two hundred years for a two-day journey.
You can learn more about me by reading my story or checking out my blog. You can learn more about spiritual direction at the Spiritual Directors International (SDI) website. As a member of SDI, I subscribe to their ethical guidelines. I’ll be happy to discuss my training and supervision further if you are interested.